Friendship Day!! Krishna or Karna??

Yesterday, while murdering my time on FB, I got one silly app that asked few questions & mapped me with one Character of Epic MahaBharat.
I got myself as Karna. My Most loved Character, as loved as Lord Krishna.

And seeing Karna, my thoughts wandered through his dolorous life. One by one thoughts kept hoping and reached in present time and on Friendship day. I remembered few days back there was this Friendship day.
I never wish or celebrate this day because I feel it's unwanted celebration. However never I have any objection to those who celebrate it. Just a matter of personal choices.

However I strongly feel about sharing of picture of Krishna & Sudama on friendship day. I think that is wrong notion of Friendship, rather people should share picture of Duryodhan & Karna.

If You see relationship of Krishna & Sudama. It was more of Giver & Taker. Lord Krishna took care of his friend in his dire times. That's big heartedness & humility in Krishna's character. But this relation is not relation of equals. I would have loved it had Sudama taken pride of himself and declined the givings. Moreover this friendship was never tested.
Then there are some who contest it saying Lord Krishna is God's incarnation & he can give. Well that point is taken, but then we all know God & human relation is more like Father & Son, rather Friends.

When it comes to Karna & Duryodhan. Then this relationship was so special. Duryodhan,  offered his friendship to a low caste but highly talented man. Karna accepted it. Duryodhan's friendship brought Karna respect & honour in society while Karna's friendship in turn shielded Duryodhan from his opponents though his loyalty & war skills. This bond was so strong that Duryodhan who wept death of his 99 brothers, cried inconsolably when Karna was Killed. He even declared that even if he wins his victory would be meaningless. He would however, continue to war to revenge Karna's death rather for kingdom. Karna on the other hand, defended his friend Duryodhan, even after his life secret got revealed to him. That he actually is fighting against his real brother when fighting for Duryodhan.
Both loved & trusted each other, un-conditionally.

Such is the bond of friendship, which even if tested against real blood relations, stands tall.
So Belated Happy Friendship Day! May we remain Friends Like Duryodhan & Karna.
FB app has told me that I'm Karna, true or not but I loved that part.

My Political Deliberation for 2014

This Political Deliberation, added crystalline quality to my clarity on-How to act this General Election. Penning down the storm of my brain here, it may help someone take decision.

Since last 6 months political scenario became interesting. This is due to a new party managed to grab the CM seat in Delhi.
As we know any heavily advertise new product in the Market comes with lots of expectation because everyone's head has all positiveness due to the create hype. But when it hits Market, reality check happens, analyst do and so the consumer.
Such checks started for AK after his actions post election.
So for this new AK & Team I went through my check. And started to ask question to understand, are they really what they claim to be & what made me to like them. Yes I did like AK then, and wanted him to do well in Delhi.
The First Q
 ? Why did AK & Team chose to form Gov, when they could easily go for next election within 6 months. And with public on their side, they had possibility to get better results. And even if the results had come otherwise, they would have stood by their words of no joining hands.
Of Many Answer I got, I feel this scores better
- Every MP gets some allowance/pension/compensation per month if s/he take oath as member. So AK & His Folks will not get entitled to this unless some government forms in Delhi, so AK had to grab it. And being a new party with tight financials, this is acceptable, AK has done the right thing.
The Second Q 
 ? Why did he accept support from congress
    Congress was the party, fighting against which AK & it's party got it's existence. Then Why Them? Many answers floated in, Like it's no alliance, congress support at their will, etc
 - Got no good answer to this, but I got back faith in AK, when he said Congress will Regret Their Decision to Support them. Unfortunately when he self resigned, I looked back and did not got even one instance which I could say congress might have regretted even a bit. The only person AK filed FIR was Mr Moily that too it came out that they were building platform for creating agenda for General Election.
The Third Q
Mr. Bhusan's comment came on J&K & on Naxalites. Bhusan is a founding member of AK's party, I have always disliked him for his actions/comments, this or even previous ones. But my focus was AK, & No One.
 ? So I wished to know what feelings does AK has on India's Unity & Sovereignty?
Kejriwal never spoke directly on this comment (or may be I missed it), however his party did say it's Bhusan's Personal thought. Later in an interview when AK was asked on various party members with Anti-Indian, Separatist, etc tag, AK said, we (he & his party) accommodate variety of people.
What!!, this was such a lame response; variety can't be such kind of people. If it means all, What if Sheila Dixit wants to join you, what if Afzal Guru/Ajmal Kasab wanted to do so (had they been alive)?
Moreover AK's party continued getting support specially from people like Binayek Sen, Arundhati Roy, Amartya Sen, Medha Patkar, etc. And they even declared they are willing to take even International Don Daud. This is heights.
And my all Hope on AK ended when he, as CM of Delhi, gave a shameful statement about our Republic Day this year. It certified, to me, he is not what he claims to be.

Since then various news, stings, discussion, act of vandalism, etc clearly shows the difference in his words & action. He has no Big plan for this country, what AK really has is One Big Mouth. With so much difference in his talks on & off camera, clearly shows AK, a Paltu (Mr. U Turner).
However Still one Last Question was at large in my Head
Fourth, The Last Q
 ? The way he resigned as Delhi CM, it looked too desperate and uncalled for action. Why such action making a Bill, scapegoat.
My thoughts churned out the answer few days back. The National elections are revolving around RaGa & NaMo and they are a total Mismatch for a contest. NaMo has a very clear win, No wonder if he pulls Full Majority. So if such a thing happens, Keeping NaMo's age in Mind & His governance Style. AK's Party has no hope for becoming National for at least 10-15 years. And AK's only tool for fight called Corruption will loose it's steam in those 10-15 years. So, believing in "Eat it while it is still Hot", funda, he resigned to focus general election.
Just look what he has talked since he started his general election campaign. Anything on what he will do? No, or May Be, he might have printed something and kept in his party's manifesto. He mainly talks of stopping NaMo. And unfortunately, in doing good to himself/his party, AK, in turn, is becoming a hurdle to the wide good which is about to happen to this Country.

In 1964, a movie Chitralekha had a song Sansaar se Bhaage Phirte ho...
I have a Parody for AK based on that
जिम्मेदारी से भागे फिरते हो, तुम देश क्या चलाओगे|
मुख्यमंत्री का पद अपना न सके, पीएम तुम क्या बन पाओगे!
(Loose Translation: Running away from Responsibilities, how can you run a country. Couldn't hold on CM job, what (kindof) PM you wish to become.)

My Thoughts are clear. As Nationalist, India is my Choice.
In 2014, India Needs NaMo.
Any vote anywhere else is a waste. Those who plan to Do So, they Are Delaying Our Country's Growth. So I suggest them don't do this sin. Yeah, right I said this act as Sin.

Disclaimer:
These are my Personal Thought. You are Free to Agree or take Otherwise.

India's Independence Day 2013

The Jharia Coal Mine, in Jharkhand is burning for 80 years now and all attempts to damp the fire down is Futile.

Now come to our country India, I find it in similar state. Britishers left India 66 years ago after burning, looting & dividing the nation. It's since then, our country has become a puzzle, which our politicians are unable to solve, it is filled with scattered feeling with no one reason/force to stay united and immeasurable possibilities/talent with no one to translate it to development. 

Politicians have been pouring water in this fire, only enough to get steam to take bath and use the heated land to bake bread of their own mean & selfish motives.

Lets Stop Blaming politicians or anyone. These hurdles are nothing but reflection of our own character.

Stop taking pride when we don't attempt to do something to change. Some x% Indian Engineers in Silicon Valley, USA doesn't add value to us. Lets attempt to create some valley here in India.

Let us Increase Individual who refuse to succumb to odd situations. As there are success stories in here also. But wait, don't go & create them, lets start from within.

Lets Start creating the change, not in the system but in us. 

Lets Stop doing what we want people to stop.

And Start doing what we want people to do.

Lets Start Being Different and Correct.

Start Today, We have One Year to Evaluate

Wish You a Very

 Happy Independence Day !!

६६वें स्वतन्त्रता दिवस की शुभकामनाएँ !!

कविता - पूर्वोत्तर हिंसा और राजनीति

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अशांत है उत्तरपूर्व आज, उनका जीवन अनिश्चितता में,

अपने जन को भय जकड़े, 

औ परदेशी करे है तांडव, लिप्त हिंसक लीला में।

विरोधाभास तो देखो,

है अपना देश, धरती अपनी,

पर जन अपने रहते, अब शिविरों में।

रक्षा उनकी अब करे कौन, शासक हैं वोटों की क्रीड़ा में।

परदेशियों का धर्म दिखा, राष्ट्र की विविधता पर सेंध किया।

अप्रवासन के मुद्दे पर, सांप्रदायिक लबादा डाल दिया।

चिंगारी थी एक क्षेत्र की, सारे राष्ट्र में धधका दिया।

सियासी व्यंग किया राष्ट्र पर, सिआसी अब आतंक हुआ।

जातीय हिंसा अब भड़क गई, वो कहते है, हम नज़र बनाये हैं।

जलते मकान, कटते हैं लोग, वो कहते है, स्थिति नियंत्रण में है।

आंतरिक पलायन है वृद्धि पर, वो कहते है, संयम बनाये रखें।

जो पूछो क्या करते हैं आप, तो हर विषय पर राजनीतिक मंत्रणा में हैं।।

--- भाग-१ समाप्त --- 

विद्वेष की अग्नि चौंध रही, सियासी रोटी सेंकते तुम।

मासूमों का रक्त बहा, राजनीतिक दाँव फेंकते तुम।

बिखरे मानव शवों से, अपने सिंघासन को जोड़ते तुम।

इस मायूसी के परिवेश में, अपने कर्म-धर्म को भूल के, अपनी आत्मा को चूर के,

किस सियासी उधेड़-बून में लगे हो तुम।।

किस तंत्र से करें गुहार, हो सत्ता प्रमुख और मूक हो तुम,

गाँधी के तीन बंदरों का, संज्ञान तो है पर अर्थ है गुम,

देखो ना सत्य, न सुनो, न बोलो, हो किस अभिमान में तुम,

कौन सा गठबंधन धर्म निभाते, कहती जनता अकर्मण्य हो तुम।

शर्मसार ना करो राष्ट्र को, सत्ता के शीर्ष पर बैठे हो तुम,

शर्मसार ना हो जौहर उनका, जिस समुदाय को शीर्ष पे पहने हो तुम,

ना रहो तुम इतने मूक असहाय, करोड़ों के सरदार हो तुम,

ये राष्ट्र तुम्हारे साथ है, सत्य, सबल हो, शान्ति का आवाहन करो तो तुम।

--- समाप्त ---

कवि-

विवेक विक्रम

कविता - मैंने मिटा दिया है|

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वर्षों से देखा नहीं तुमको,
न की बात,
न किया याद।
सोचा था मिटा दूंगा,
हर याद,
हर कोमलता को,
जो तुमसे जुड़ी है।
उधेड़ दूँगा हर सम्बद्ध चेतना, जो मन में सिल गई है।
खुरच दूँगा उन चिन्हों को,
तुम्हारी मुस्कान ने जो, इस हृदय पर रेखांकित कीं है।

हर लेख, हर कविता,
हर उस अंक को मिटा दिया।
था उल्लेख जिनमें तुम्हारा।
राख कर दिए वो सब पत्र, हर वो वस्तु,
जिनसे भूले से भी न लौटे सन्दर्भ तुम्हारा।

छोड़नी थी वो राह, जहाँ यादें बसी थीं तुम्हारी,
और छोड़ते छोड़ते पूरा शहर छूट गया।
कुछ मीटरों का साथ था हमारा,
पर उस समय में,
तुम्हें याद करते-करते ,
गलियों से गुज़रते,
उफ़ ये क्या किया!
पूरे शहर को तुम्हारे प्रतिबिंब से जोड़ दिया।।
मिलते तो थे हम कुछ पलों के लिए ही,
पर उन पलों को पाने की बेसब्री को,
हमने शहर की हर गलियों, रिक्शों, ऑटों और इमारतों को बतला दिया।।

--- भाग-१ समाप्त --- 

कहते हैं लोग -
"तू अब इंसान नहीं रह गया है।
मन में कोई भाव नहीं, मानवी गुण से शुष्क हो गया है।
हाड़ माँस का शरीर तो है ,
पर मानवी चेतनाओं से रिक्त, पाषाण क्यों बन गया है?"

कैसे बतलाएं-
लगाव था कितना गहरा,
हम स्वयं नहीं जान पाए।
अब रगड़ रहे है स्मृतियों को उनकी,
भले अपना ही अनिष्ट क्यूं ना हो जाए।
निर्विकल्प थे हम,
कदम बढ़ गए इस ओर,
चाहें भी तो उस राह पर लौट कर कैसे जायेंगे।
बीत गया है समय भी इतना,
जो कहीं लौटे भी तो,
सब बिखरा और खोया हुआ ही पाएंगे।

अब अपनी नियति, इस राह पर चलते रहना है।
मिट के मिटाना ही है मेरा भविष्य,
पञ्च तत्वों में मिल कर ही,
इस मोह से विच्छेद होना है।

अपनी समाधि की पटिया बनवा ली है मैंने,
और लिखवाया है कि,
"मैंने मिटा दिया है"।
स्वयं को या उनकी यादों को,
इसका विश्लेषण अब करे कौन,
मेरे ईश्वर से पूछो,
शायद उसी को पता है।।

--- समाप्त ---

कवि-

विवेक विक्रम

कविता - बरसाती भीगी स्मृतियाँ

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आज बालकनी पर खड़ा,
गर्म पानी की चुस्की लेता हुआ,
देखता हूँ,
बरसात हो रही है।
कुछ देर से आई इस बार,
पर चलो आई तो सही।
तो सोचा,
क्यों ना कुछ देर यहीं रुकूँ,
और शीतलता भरूँ,
अपने गर्मी से तप्त और विचलित मन में।
धुआँ और प्रदूषित हवा तो रोज़ ही भोगता हूँ,
आज प्रकृति की स्वछता का आनंद भी ले लूँ।।

यूँ ही खड़ा आँखें दौड़ाता हूँ,
तो देखता हूँ, इस बारिश में,
मुख्य मार्ग पर जाती गाड़ियों का चलना।
लोगों का रुक रुक कर यहाँ वहाँ दुबकना।
कुछ लोगों का कूद कूद, बहते सड़क के पानी से बचना।
कुछ लोगों का छाता नचाना और छाते को बताना,
की कौन सा अंग भीगे और कौन सा है उसे बचाना।
कुछ का बार बार उम्मीद से आकाश ताकना।
कुछ लोगों का उकता कर, बस बारिश में ही निकल पड़ना।

मैं खुश हूँ, कि घर पर हूँ,
रास्ते में होता,
तो इन्हीं में से कोई पात्र जीना पड़ता।
मैं कहूंगा कि आज का दिन अच्छा है,
क्यूँकि आज तो मैं हर पात्र का दर्शक हूँ

--- भाग-१ समाप्त --- 

फिर ध्यान गया कि -
अरे! ये कैसी आनंदित स्वर गूँज रहे हैं?
तब देखता हूँ,
हमारी सड़क पर मजदूरों के बच्चे खेलते हैं।
रिमझिम गिरते पानी में किलकारियाँ भर रहे हैं।
नंगे बदन, चड्ढी पहने,
इस प्रकृति प्रदित शीतलता को गृहण कर रहे हैं।
इस बारिश में
झूमते खिलखिलाते खुद तो वो मगन हैं ही,
पर कुछ दूरी से ताकते,
अपने अस्थाई घरों से बीच बीच में झाँकते,
उनके परिजन भी हर्षित हो रहे हैं।

इस दर्शय से
मेरा मन अनायास ही चौकड़ी भरने लगा।
बड़े वेग से लड़प्पन की स्मृतियों में लौटने लगा।
बचपन की वो अटखेलियों को ख़ोज खोज,
फिर उनको कल्पनाओं में जीने लगा है।
बारिश में वो छत पर धमा चौकड़ी करना,
दीदियों पे ला ला के पानी छिड़कना,
औ फिर-
पीछा करवाते हुये उन्हें बारिश में ले आना।
छींकते हुये फिर पोछना तौलिये से,
गर्म दूध पीना,
और साथ में माँ की डांटा खाना।

क्या सुखद पल थे वो,
ऐसे स्मरणों से खड़े खड़े मग्न हो गया मैं।
बचपन की भीगी स्मृतियों में,
गहरे गोता लगाने लगा मैं।
गीली स्मृतियों की सोच भर से,
उष्मा से भर गया मैं।

--- भाग-२ समाप्त ---

वो अपने मोहल्ले के दोस्तों के साथ,
कागज़ की नाव बनाना।
फिर उनको नाली के पानी में दौड़ लगवाना।
और फिर देखना उस नाव को,
पानी के वेग में डोलना,
बहाव से जूझना,
कागज़ का पानी सोकना।
संपर्क जो पानी का नाव के तल से था,
उसका ऊपर बढ़ना,
पहले नाव को डुबोना,
औ फिर उसे कूड़े की तरह बहा ले जाना।।

उस तेज़ नाली के बहाव में हम अक्सर ये सोचते थे ,
की बरसात में नदी का पानी कितनी तेज़ बहता होगा?
और फिर ये बोल कर की
"समुद्र बहुत बड़ा होता है तो उसका पानी नदी से भी तेज़ बहता है"
दोस्तों में अपने आपको काबिल सिद्ध कर देना।

सड़क के खड्डों में कूद कूद कर,
चलने वालों को परेशान करना।
कोई पीटने आये,
तो गलियों में भागना और गायब हो जाना।
किसी पानी के भराव पर जा खड़े होना,
और तेज़ निकली गाड़ी से जब उछालता पानी,
तो उससे बचना,
और बचते-बचते उसी में भीग जाना।
यदि किसी बड़े ने देखा,
तो उस गाडी वाले पर झूठमूठ का गुस्सा दिखाना-
"कि धीरे नहीं चला सकते है क्या?"
पर मन ही मन अपनी उपलब्धी पर खुश होना।

क्या दिन थे वो भी,
मौज के, मस्ती के,
ढलती शाम तक घर के अन्दर आ जाना
साफ़ होना, खाना पीना,
और बहार टिपटिपाते पानी को देख देख खुश होते रहना,
और फिर इतने उधम से थक कर जल्दी सोने जाना।
और सोते सोते यही मनाना, की
"हे इन्द्र देव ऐसे ही बरसते रहो रात भर
कल स्कूल की छुट्टी करवा के ही दम लेना"।

--- भाग-३ समाप्त ---

एकाएक मोटर साइकिलें निकलने लगीं,
हमारी सड़क से।
और मेरा ख्यालों का क्रम टूट गया।
देखा बारिश रुक गई है।
थामी थी जो ट्रैफ़िक फिर उमड़ पड़ी  है।
मुख्य मार्ग जाम हो गया है,
तो हमारी सड़क अब लोगों का ट्रैफ़िक से बचने का सहारा बन गई है।
स्पष्ट है बच्चे सुरक्षा की दृष्टी से अपने घर लौट गए हैं।

और यहाँ हमारा गर्म पानी तो कबका ख़त्म हो गया है।
अब इस शोर से तो,
 स्मृतियों की उष्मा भी जाती रही है।
प्राकृतिक शीतलता लेते लेते, अब ठण्ड लगने लगी है
हमें लगता है,
 अब घर के अन्दर जाने में ही बेहतरी है।

--- समाप्त ---

कवि-

विवेक विक्रम

Conflicts: Parents & We

The conflict of opinions so often comes with our parents. One common conflict I have witnessed is-
When Parents call their children back to them and they resist as they see different future for themselves than what they get if they return.
One related situation is when
Parents reject the idea to let their grown up children live independently i.e. not letting them leave house.

This problem is very predominant found in people of South Asian Countries when for Jobs people (sometimes with their wife & family) move out of their houses leaving their parents behind. The return calls start in few years.

This problem looks quite interesting to me so I thought to handle it ways possible. Here.

First let us understand what exactly is the situation
Parents perspective-
One often hear them saying some of these or related statements
"We have grown old and need you around."
"We have done/build so much for you here, who will take care of this."
"What family are we if we can't live together? Shouldn't we support the highs and lows of each others."
"To wish to live you life and have fun. We allowed. Now come back and take your responsibility"
And so on...
The hidden truth is this--
The focus in life has moved past parents generation and they feel left out. At this stage of life they have no other desire but one i.e. to enjoy their remaining life to fullest and for that they need acceptance. But the acceptance of their existence is on decline, in society and even in their own circle. Society gains nothing so it does not heed them, while their circle again comprises old people and it's shrinking as time passes by. They are becoming ancient & worthless and this thought haunts them.
Some would have build an Empire/system/property in their life, in their city and they don't want to see it crumble while they live. They want someone (their children) to take control & flourish and make them proud. Rather see its fall under them and remorse.
And it is cruel but true that they grew old and want someone around, as they are not physically capable to self care.

Now let's see their children's perspective-
You often hear them saying
"I am no more child. I am now a grown up man, financially stable and have family of my own."
"If I have to return, my kids schooling will affect, my wife's job will be gone and moreover I too will not find a suitable work for my qualification."
"Why don't you both leave all that and come live with us"
Here is the underlying of above sentences-
The new generation wants to taste freedom and the thought that their parents are around is like shackle on their thought/wishes/desires. They have chosen a professional path in life and they see bright chances to excel. And suddenly this pressure to change the course of life. They resist to chose that shown path, as it is substandard to their qualification & their capabilities and according to them leads to a dead end. Moreover the luxuries & comfort of life which they can enjoy in their present place, would become a distant dream living with their parents in that lost and forgotten city. UN-punctuated life style, freedom and no shackles of emotion and culture, would get a period and end. Thet detest the idea to disturb the uninterpreted seeping of western life and luxuries, which they have always thought promotes self oriented and I first policy. Moreover all this sacrifice for what. And then they shrugs his head because somewhere in their  heart's dark, unknown, hidden closet they have acknowledge that their parents will perish soon, may be a decade or two. And in keeping them happy they would loose all prime of their life.


Hmmm.. the problem seems grave
Let us look for available solutions


Solution 1:
It is utmost disrespectful and insensitive to ignore your yesteryear's heroes (parents), just because your life doesn't need them today. They have worked life long for you and you like parasite should leave them when they depend on you. No!

So You Must Agree and Return when they call you!
But this will Hurt Your feelings.
So, Your Loss Brings Joy & Victory to Your Parents.

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Solution 2:
A man also has his own ideas and desires, which he wants to experiment and experience. This is how one gains meaning to all those hollow words, like Life, God, Family, Love, hatred, etc, which were uttered and coached to him since childhood. And most importantly with his experiments in life as he deduces his own understanding to those vague words, he gets to know himself, recognize the ingredients that constitutes him and sees the world with different view point. And when such different view points collect, interact and conflict, new thoughts generate that give thrusts to the mankind to blaze ahead on the path of growth & development.

So You Should Not Return Back!
But this will Hurt Your Parents.
So, Your Victory Brings Defeat to Your Parents.

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Both Solutions seems Incomplete.
You would tempt to say "This is no war that someone has to Win Or Lose. Why on earth are you viewing it like this".
However the situation is no less than war if you do macro-viewing. Both ends are horn locked, opinionated about other, unwilling to understand others view, have no peace in their minds and whenever opportunity arises they try to force convince each other.

Now before we look further for solutions let us draw some similarities between kids and old folks. This will help us reach better solution because every father seems quite apt in handling their kids.
Old folks are like kids, which needs care and patient handling. 

Care because they both are weak. Patience because kids are innocent while oldies are energy drained people. And low levels of energy sprouts reluctance towards change.

Keeping those two essentials in mind, let us EXPLORE a Next solution.

Solution 3:
Please Note that word in capitals. That the soul of the next solution.
Explore Yourself.
    - Why you don't wish to return?
    - Why Affection and Attachment of Your Parents, now looks quaint to you?
    - What is that you are not able to achieve while at home?
    - Is there anything else you can do to use your qualification justifiably, if you return?
Explore Your Parents
    - Why are they dragging (if you think it that way) you?
    - Why are they not connected to you now no more?
    - Did any past action or inaction sowed the seed of mistrust between you and your parents?
    - What in the world can help them compensate so they come to you rather you go to them?

Now you have to explore to get precise answers to all these question. And while that happens, keep doing the below
    - Develop faith in their heart for you and your family (if you have your own)
    - Make them believe that they are also equally important in your life
    - Spend time with them.
    - And build a good rapport with them.
No matter how great relationship you were having with your parents, when such matter arise, even the most sparkling chemistry diminishes. So you need to rekindle that fire.

And once you gain back that lost sparkle and have all answers explored, you need to Dialogue With Them. This is the Most Difficult part. But remain calm and persistent. A middle path need to be found. And when you have that found, all your problems related to your Parents are solved. And you will also have answers to these
    - Should you Return or Not?
    - What alternatives you have in life where you can flourish?
    - How can you continue to make your life comfortable and make your parents as will enjoy the comforts?


Of course equal responsibility lies with their parents as well to help find solution rather imposing their wishes. But I prefer not to suggest them.
I can see a question mark popping your head. So here are the reasons-
  - Suggesting them means requiring them to change through preaching. I, personally, am not very hopeful that such a thing would work.
  - Moreover with you lies the power of decision. So you ought to take the responsibility
And if you could execute this successfully, then you Return or Not doesn't matter
You will Win and You will Find Your Parents On Your Side.
So Your WIN will make them also WIN.

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Now in the end time to see the repercussions Of Each Solution On You.
(+)  means Positive
( - )  means Negative

• You Go For Solutoin 1.
• (+)Your parents will live happily
• ( - )You will live depressed for not pursuing your dreams
• ( - )You will lose your affection towards your parents for pressurizing you to make their favoured decision 
• ( - )Your family (wife & kids) might not like your decision
• ( - )You become coward as you succumb to difficulties and failed to raise head

• You Go For Option 2.
• (+)You will live happily in all comforts
• ( - )You Parents will always remain in Pain for your disregard
• ( - )Society will be secretly label you as Selfish & Mean
• ( - )You will eventually regret for being so Selfish
• ( - )You set wrong example to your kids
• ( - )You might later in life regret for your negligence to your parents

• * You Go For Option 3
• ( - )This solution will take time
• ( - )You will have to work Hard and remain Patient
• (+) You get innovative and articulative as you strive to bring both your parents and yourself to common understanding
• (+)You parents initially will resist but eventually feel Love and proud for you
• (+)You will learn to stand tall in difficult times
• (+)You set right example and show the right way of living to your kids
• (+)You will feel very confident about yourself for
• Not succumbing to Hardship (Sol 1.)
• Not choosing the easiest path available (Sol 2.)  &
• Fighting through the situation till the end and wining (Sol 3.)

To all those in facing this trouble, now Make Your Call.
Good Luck :-))