Conflicts: Parents & We

The conflict of opinions so often comes with our parents. One common conflict I have witnessed is-
When Parents call their children back to them and they resist as they see different future for themselves than what they get if they return.
One related situation is when
Parents reject the idea to let their grown up children live independently i.e. not letting them leave house.

This problem is very predominant found in people of South Asian Countries when for Jobs people (sometimes with their wife & family) move out of their houses leaving their parents behind. The return calls start in few years.

This problem looks quite interesting to me so I thought to handle it ways possible. Here.

First let us understand what exactly is the situation
Parents perspective-
One often hear them saying some of these or related statements
"We have grown old and need you around."
"We have done/build so much for you here, who will take care of this."
"What family are we if we can't live together? Shouldn't we support the highs and lows of each others."
"To wish to live you life and have fun. We allowed. Now come back and take your responsibility"
And so on...
The hidden truth is this--
The focus in life has moved past parents generation and they feel left out. At this stage of life they have no other desire but one i.e. to enjoy their remaining life to fullest and for that they need acceptance. But the acceptance of their existence is on decline, in society and even in their own circle. Society gains nothing so it does not heed them, while their circle again comprises old people and it's shrinking as time passes by. They are becoming ancient & worthless and this thought haunts them.
Some would have build an Empire/system/property in their life, in their city and they don't want to see it crumble while they live. They want someone (their children) to take control & flourish and make them proud. Rather see its fall under them and remorse.
And it is cruel but true that they grew old and want someone around, as they are not physically capable to self care.

Now let's see their children's perspective-
You often hear them saying
"I am no more child. I am now a grown up man, financially stable and have family of my own."
"If I have to return, my kids schooling will affect, my wife's job will be gone and moreover I too will not find a suitable work for my qualification."
"Why don't you both leave all that and come live with us"
Here is the underlying of above sentences-
The new generation wants to taste freedom and the thought that their parents are around is like shackle on their thought/wishes/desires. They have chosen a professional path in life and they see bright chances to excel. And suddenly this pressure to change the course of life. They resist to chose that shown path, as it is substandard to their qualification & their capabilities and according to them leads to a dead end. Moreover the luxuries & comfort of life which they can enjoy in their present place, would become a distant dream living with their parents in that lost and forgotten city. UN-punctuated life style, freedom and no shackles of emotion and culture, would get a period and end. Thet detest the idea to disturb the uninterpreted seeping of western life and luxuries, which they have always thought promotes self oriented and I first policy. Moreover all this sacrifice for what. And then they shrugs his head because somewhere in their  heart's dark, unknown, hidden closet they have acknowledge that their parents will perish soon, may be a decade or two. And in keeping them happy they would loose all prime of their life.


Hmmm.. the problem seems grave
Let us look for available solutions


Solution 1:
It is utmost disrespectful and insensitive to ignore your yesteryear's heroes (parents), just because your life doesn't need them today. They have worked life long for you and you like parasite should leave them when they depend on you. No!

So You Must Agree and Return when they call you!
But this will Hurt Your feelings.
So, Your Loss Brings Joy & Victory to Your Parents.

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Solution 2:
A man also has his own ideas and desires, which he wants to experiment and experience. This is how one gains meaning to all those hollow words, like Life, God, Family, Love, hatred, etc, which were uttered and coached to him since childhood. And most importantly with his experiments in life as he deduces his own understanding to those vague words, he gets to know himself, recognize the ingredients that constitutes him and sees the world with different view point. And when such different view points collect, interact and conflict, new thoughts generate that give thrusts to the mankind to blaze ahead on the path of growth & development.

So You Should Not Return Back!
But this will Hurt Your Parents.
So, Your Victory Brings Defeat to Your Parents.

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Both Solutions seems Incomplete.
You would tempt to say "This is no war that someone has to Win Or Lose. Why on earth are you viewing it like this".
However the situation is no less than war if you do macro-viewing. Both ends are horn locked, opinionated about other, unwilling to understand others view, have no peace in their minds and whenever opportunity arises they try to force convince each other.

Now before we look further for solutions let us draw some similarities between kids and old folks. This will help us reach better solution because every father seems quite apt in handling their kids.
Old folks are like kids, which needs care and patient handling. 

Care because they both are weak. Patience because kids are innocent while oldies are energy drained people. And low levels of energy sprouts reluctance towards change.

Keeping those two essentials in mind, let us EXPLORE a Next solution.

Solution 3:
Please Note that word in capitals. That the soul of the next solution.
Explore Yourself.
    - Why you don't wish to return?
    - Why Affection and Attachment of Your Parents, now looks quaint to you?
    - What is that you are not able to achieve while at home?
    - Is there anything else you can do to use your qualification justifiably, if you return?
Explore Your Parents
    - Why are they dragging (if you think it that way) you?
    - Why are they not connected to you now no more?
    - Did any past action or inaction sowed the seed of mistrust between you and your parents?
    - What in the world can help them compensate so they come to you rather you go to them?

Now you have to explore to get precise answers to all these question. And while that happens, keep doing the below
    - Develop faith in their heart for you and your family (if you have your own)
    - Make them believe that they are also equally important in your life
    - Spend time with them.
    - And build a good rapport with them.
No matter how great relationship you were having with your parents, when such matter arise, even the most sparkling chemistry diminishes. So you need to rekindle that fire.

And once you gain back that lost sparkle and have all answers explored, you need to Dialogue With Them. This is the Most Difficult part. But remain calm and persistent. A middle path need to be found. And when you have that found, all your problems related to your Parents are solved. And you will also have answers to these
    - Should you Return or Not?
    - What alternatives you have in life where you can flourish?
    - How can you continue to make your life comfortable and make your parents as will enjoy the comforts?


Of course equal responsibility lies with their parents as well to help find solution rather imposing their wishes. But I prefer not to suggest them.
I can see a question mark popping your head. So here are the reasons-
  - Suggesting them means requiring them to change through preaching. I, personally, am not very hopeful that such a thing would work.
  - Moreover with you lies the power of decision. So you ought to take the responsibility
And if you could execute this successfully, then you Return or Not doesn't matter
You will Win and You will Find Your Parents On Your Side.
So Your WIN will make them also WIN.

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Now in the end time to see the repercussions Of Each Solution On You.
(+)  means Positive
( - )  means Negative

• You Go For Solutoin 1.
• (+)Your parents will live happily
• ( - )You will live depressed for not pursuing your dreams
• ( - )You will lose your affection towards your parents for pressurizing you to make their favoured decision 
• ( - )Your family (wife & kids) might not like your decision
• ( - )You become coward as you succumb to difficulties and failed to raise head

• You Go For Option 2.
• (+)You will live happily in all comforts
• ( - )You Parents will always remain in Pain for your disregard
• ( - )Society will be secretly label you as Selfish & Mean
• ( - )You will eventually regret for being so Selfish
• ( - )You set wrong example to your kids
• ( - )You might later in life regret for your negligence to your parents

• * You Go For Option 3
• ( - )This solution will take time
• ( - )You will have to work Hard and remain Patient
• (+) You get innovative and articulative as you strive to bring both your parents and yourself to common understanding
• (+)You parents initially will resist but eventually feel Love and proud for you
• (+)You will learn to stand tall in difficult times
• (+)You set right example and show the right way of living to your kids
• (+)You will feel very confident about yourself for
• Not succumbing to Hardship (Sol 1.)
• Not choosing the easiest path available (Sol 2.)  &
• Fighting through the situation till the end and wining (Sol 3.)

To all those in facing this trouble, now Make Your Call.
Good Luck :-))

कविता - आदमी की तलाश!!

While You Read

  - Pause, at every Comma

  - Break at every Line

  - Read full lines

कुछ बनने की चाह में,
अपनी पहचान की तलाश में,

निकलता है छोड़ के आदमी,

अपना घर|

परिजनों से दूर,

नाते रिश्तों से दूर,

निकला है वो एक तलाश में|

तलाश उस ज़मीन की, जहाँ रखेगा वो नींव, 

अपने घर की|

तलाश उस द्रव्य की, प्राप्त होंगे जिनसे संसाधन,

जीवन सुगमता से जीने के|

तलाश उस सामाजिक अभिज्ञान की, बोध कराये जो, 

संसार में उसके अस्तित्व का|

प्रण है ये उसका,
कि एक दिन,
जियेगा वो,

रसोस्वाद न किया जिन सुखद क्षणों का,
स्वयं को वापस करेगा वो|

अछूते होते रहे जो रिश्ते,
जो बंधन,

उनमें प्रेम की अग्नि उद्वेलित करेगा वो|

उस दिन,
जब करके पूरे सपने, सफल होगा वो।

हर नाते को उपेक्षित करने के आक्षेप का,
पश्चाताप करेगा वो|

विजय और समृधि के शिखर पर हो कर खड़ा,

बस जी रहे से उन अपनों को लगाएगा गले वो|

तब उसके दर्श को तरसते मात पिता को,

जीवन के हर आनंद से अभिभूत करेगा वो||

---भाग-१ समाप्त---

लालसा है कितनी,

कि हो जाये सब अविलम्ब,
कुछ क्षणों, दिनों या महीनों में।

औ फिर वो जी ले अपने प्रण को|

औ फिर सिखाये,
अपने उन पिछड़े से गए लोगों को ,

कौशल,
जीवन को जीने का|

जो उसने त्याग से पाया है।

त्याग,
उन बेमानों से बन्धनों और संस्कारों का,

जिनमें वो उलझे पड़े हैं, सब|

त्याग,
कुछ ना देने वाली राष्ट्रीयता का,

जिसको न जाने क्यों ढो रहे हैं ये सब,
बेमतलब|

पर न जाने क्यों,

ये हो नहीं पाता है।

जो वो चाहता है करना शीघ्रता से,

तो क्षण का दिन,
दिन का महीना,

और महीना सालों में क्यों परिवर्तित हुआ जाता है?

दो पाटों में बंटा है, शायद वो,

सफलता को पाने का संकल्प तो है, पर खुशी के पलों को जीने की चाहत भी है|

औ विलंब का कारण शायद - यही है|

है दृढ़ निश्चयी वो, हार न वो यूँ मानेगा,

कर अर्जुन सा एकल दिमाग, चिड़िया की आँख को भेदेगा|

तोड़ दी हर एक डोर, जो पीछे खींच के उसको लाती थी,

अवरुद्ध की हर वो राह, जो उसके ध्येय की ओर न जाती थी|

रखता था वैश्विक दृष्टीकोण, हर सीमा को लांघ निकलता था|

अथक परिश्रम करता, हर सुख को प्रतिवादित करता था|

पर बढाती थी अर्थव्यवस्था, सो सपने भी अभियुत्तिथ होते थे,

मानो नदी के छोर थे दोनों, ना आपस में वो मिलते थे!

कितने ही वर्ष बीत गए,
इस दौड़ का अंत न दिखता था।

विश्लेषण अब कौन करे, हर क्षण वो उलझा रहता था|

ना परिवार का बोध था, 
ना था प्रिया का, ना संतानों का,

था तो बस संकल्प,
अपने लक्ष्य को शीघ्रता से पाने का|

संकल्प बनी कब हठ,
अब उससे ये कौन कहे,

एकल दिमाग के अर्जुन को, अन्य आयाम अब कहाँ दिखें।

---भाग-२ समाप्त---

पर बड़ा क्रूर है समय, लौट कर,
एक दिन वो भी आता है,
जो मढ़ा सदा अन्य पर, स्वयं का,
एकमात्र विकल्प बन जाता है।

ह्रदय विखंडित हुआ था, उस दिन,

उसके भ्रमावरण का चीर हुआ,

संतति छोड़ चली, राह पर उसकी,
तब उसका चित्त अधीर हुआ|

भारी मन,
डूबा गया अतीत में,

अब निर्णयों पे अपने, खीज रहा था।

हर जीवन का क्षण खोया था उसने,
समृधि पर अपनी, भीतर उसके,
कुछ टीस रहा था।

व्याकुलता में लौट आया घर,

अनमना सा उसको देखता था,
निर्जीव ईंट, पत्थर का ये ढाँचा भी क्या,
मुँह उससे फेर रहा था?

बहुत समय बीत चुका था,
उत्तरार्ध के मध्य में खड़ा है वो।
प्रेम कटोरा भरे भावों का,
संश्रय अंकुर की इच्छा में,
अनदेखे शुष्क नातों में,
स्वीकृति अपनी तलाशता है।
जीर्ण माता पिता की स्मृति में, उपस्तिथी को अपनी बचा रहा है।


पहचान तलाशता गया था बरसों पहले|
उत्साहित, छोड़ के,
इन रिश्ते, घर, अपनों को।
लौटा है समृधि, पर भ्रमित, म्लान प्राणी सा,
है तलाशता अपनों के कुटुंब में
स्वयं को।।

 ---समाप्त---

कवि-

विवेक विक्रम

Happy New "End Of World" Year 2012!!

Year 2012 is a Year of End of World.
I start with the routine wish as I say every New Year.

"Wish You a Happy And Prosperous New Year

May The New Year Bring You Love, Prosperity And Happiness in your Life.

May the New Year Bring Peace to the World"

2012 is an infamous Year. It has so many strong predictions associated with it from various disciplines like futurology, philosophy,etc. Some scholars of those discipline have positive interpretation while many others have negative. Man-kind in general keeps inclination towards negative hence overlooking all the positive we call the year 2012 as End of World Year.

I think it is good. Let us Believe the worst and become good. Wondering how??

Well, a person that sees its end gets more insightful and responsible towards his/her action. If such a belief can give the masses responsible view towards themselves, then this prediction of curse on Earth would be a boon on Mankind.

Personally I never believe in any such predictions. My experience says when the writer and interpreter are not same then in most of the cases the interpretation would go wrong. And it would go horribly wrong if interpreter doesn't assimilates the environment in which writer wrote.
But as far as the belief is concerned -
All those believes which can help you stay on track and help you take decision for social good or more appropriate to say help you take decision to avoid doing ill of others is a good belief. No matter how unscientific or unproven the belief is.

Now Fear or Not, the prediction says the End of World is 21st, Dec2012. I would say believe the worst and be positive, you have close to a year to leave pious footprints on this earth.

Happy New Year 2012!!

नव वर्ष २०१२ आपके लिए मंगलकारी हो!!

Steve, Dennis & My Dreams

Couple of weeks after the demise of Dennis Ritchie a picture got quite popular on fb. It questions the media favour and millions of RIPs and praises over the social network for legendary Steve Jobs against the negligible to another Legend Dennis Ritchie, who was discovered dead just a week after the former.
Needless to say both had contribute quite significantly and help give direction to the future of technology. I contain to elaborate on their contribution, because if you opted to read this, I assume you know their work.

My sub-conscious mind took a deeper impact on the subject than I thought and I dreamt twice on the related stuff. So I let the storm out here.

The real concern that picture raises is - Why Steve received more attention than Dennis, when the reality is that their had been No Apple without Unix.

The immediate response to this question is another question.
Why are you asking now when both of them died?
Steve's popularity was always high to Dennis's, even when they were alive. Steve was news with the inception of Macintosh. He was news when he was fired from his own company. He was news with NeXT and Pixar, his popularity sored with imac and he was a phenomenon with ipod and later coming iproducts.
On the contrary Media or people never talked about Dennis like this on his achievements. Unix and C, two great inventions. Those became essence of some great technological development and are still very relevant. But apart from the technical journal's or few text books, Dennis was always unknown to the media/people.

Lets see why-

First, Media has to attract people to sell itself to advertisers. So they talks of stuff which interests people. Social media where people are directly involved will talk of those matters that touched them directly. The iproducts touched the crowd and Steve was synonyms to it. So he was discussed.
Dennis heavily impacted technology in general and he is talked and mentioned whenever there is need to show respect for his Genius. Didn't you read Yashwant's Kanitkar's C books where author had so generously praised Dennis.

Next, Steve's products are product of luxury and status, not Dennis's. You will find teens or girls blabbering on road, tv or parties, "I loooove iphone/iproducts" (with annoying and un-natual stress on o of love), or put chat/fb/tw status as "I got my iphone. Yipeeee" (with so many unnecessary es). Can you ever imagine such outward expression of feelings for Unix/C, on public channels without any reason. Well don't even attempt to imagine, or you will get cramped belly laughing.

Next see what both of them tried to achieve in their lives.
Steve desired to design products to get cult tag in its category. He achieved it for almost all of his products.
Dennis desired to preserve, a good programming environment with close communication. He achieved it. In doing that he created a beautiful language "C" which stood the test of time.

When Steve's product goes to market, it is talked by it's users, the people. And when Dennis's product reached market and it's usage is eventually understood over the period of time and it is also talked by it's users, the technical people.
Now you are counting people vs technical people. Should I say who's the winner?

But this is right to question why those who create fortune with their efforts are credited more than those who open source their efforts for general good.
The disparity often disgusts us but what's the use. We live in World where Economy weighed our value.

However it's still not too late. Make a change. Start Talking and popularizing Linus Torvalds than Bill Gates. These Legends are alive.

शुभ दीपावली !!

Country's Management is Hay-wired. Happy Diwali!
Country's soaring economy stricken with corruption. Happy Diwali!
Share Market holds hard, avoiding Tumble. Happy Diwali!
"Be Selfish & Bother None" is the Popular Social Mantra. Happy Diwali!
Prices soar, Inflation Uncontrolled. Happy Diwali!
There is hunger, there is suicide. Happy Diwali!
Top to bottom n east to west, country is inflicted with feuds & Fights. Happy Diwali!

There are thousands of reason to feels Sad & Low.
This festival called Deepawali has come, to shine your face & give reasons to Glow.

Deepawali, a Festival of Light,
   A timid flame coming out of a tiny Deepak, inspires to keep going in the Darkest of Time & Fight, 
  instead wondering why there is no moon in Sky, why there is no light.
Deepawali, a Festival of Victory.
  The religious story narrates about a Mighty Evil King loses to a Exiled Prince,
  and dies, who gains His Strength through his Goodness & Courage,
  and Sets his loved one Free.
This Deepawali, as you lit the first Deepak,
  let the Shimmering flame Wipes all Dark and Evil
  in your Life, in your Neighbourhood & in your Country.

Shubh Deepawali!!!

शुभ दीपावली !!

Old Habit Re-Surfaced

Video Games had always been my Passion. Two days back I did something which triggered me to write this. The old habit transformed itself and revisited.
My childhood had associations with characters of Mario, Contra, etc. In my college days, games became my addiction. It would be any game though preferred were strategic territorial. AOE was one of My Favourites. Now a days I don't play but since last 1 month, the old habit re-surfaced.
During college day, my friend cum room-mate, a person with rational approach towards life, would always advice me to contain my passion to a level of sanity. I often heeded his advice and un-install all games. And reinstall them again in a day or two when the influence of advice weakens against my urge to play. The Rationale in Me too tried to control but it seemed incorrigible. But I also had to ensure my good grades, so a month before exams I would un-install and destroy the source (i.e. I would break all game CDs). And I would visit the game shop on the very day of my last exam to buy all those games which I broke including few new ones. I would delay my home return for a day or two so that I could peacefully play games to my heart content.

Of all, this particular incident explains it all.
It was post 5th semester exams time, I intentionally delayed my home journey for two days while my roommate left the same day.
I accompanied my friend to station, and after his train departed, I returned to my flat. No words to express with what joy. All the way from station to my rented apartment (17km), while I rode my bike, I continued thinking how will I create new regions and play with different strategies.
Reached home & started playing somewhere at evening 6. The game continued for 30 hours i.e. until mid night next day, when the power went off. I hit hard the table and cursed Indian government for not being able to give sufficient power supply. Then I felt hunger. It was natural, since last 30 hours while I was playing I lived on sugar and water. Easy source of energy. Then I also realized that my eyes were excruciatingly painful. I used a torch to inspect my eyes. Those were bad, both swollen while my right eye was blood red. The continuous CRT monitor staring was the reason (the doctor told next day). I wondered if the anti-glare screen was at all effective or was it my mistake. The feeling was mix of guild & fear. Whatever it was, I didn't want to wear specs. I swear the very moment that I would never play games (with such insanity, I clarified myself) and wished the power cut should continue at least until I sleep or my resolution wouldn't last even a night.
When at job, the first thing I bought from my salary was the best anti-glare specs. The lightest frame & glass, most effective at CRTs and wouldn't give mark on my nose. But the game playing continued but for some years.
What about the incident I mentioned at the starting??
Well it's like this. Now fb host the games I play, not addicted though. Recently there was a new game launched, territorial kind of game. Here you build army and loot others resources, but even your region can get attacked if you are off-line. I unleashed havoc on many other's region but needless to say they retaliated. And there's this one guy who tested my patience by attacking quite brutally every time I dared take penny from his region. So I kept my game on-line on laptop @home. But there were many such smart people. So two week later the game got an update and the session gets auto logged off if you are not active for a specific duration. What the hell? To those whom I razed covering myself under this strategy, haunted me back in my region.
So two days back I scripted the login part and scheduled it. Now my region remains active even while I am at office/off-line. And since last Wednesday evening my region is never attack. Now it's show time again. Wow the pleasure of Invincibility has no bounds.
Someone said Old Habit dies Hard but what if one never wanted it to Die. I have got my old passion transformed as I devised not to waste time on un-productive habits even if you wish to maintain. Technology Helps.

The Dog, Strap & the Master

I have realized a relationship. The relationship, which many of those who have, crib for it, while those who doesn't have, seek for it. The relationship I talk of is of the employee and the organization or say the employee and the employer.

If I give a close analogy to this relationship then it would be relationship of a Dog and its master. Employee is The Dog (plz don't get offended) and employer is The Master. But we also have an interesting angle to this relationship which is The Dog Strap. Defining the dog strap in this context, can be said as the individual interest; the same interest which interests the employer to tie the employee & hold and interests the employee to get itself tied and remain held to it.
If you see a Dog, it does work depending on its master's choice. Some guard sheep, some guard houses, some help in animal hunting, some do sniffing job, some help in tracking, some used in sledging, there are some special dogs which are also used for show piece and companions, etc. The dogs job is well defined and the master trains the dog to its specific need and expects to perform as it desires. The master in-turn provide for the dog and take care of it. The relationship rests on mutual interest of give and take. But this ideal situation between master and dog is rarely seen working when it come to the employee and the employer. The reason is in all this give and take relationship of the dog and the master, there is one important tacit bond; the bond of Love and Affection. The dog works for its master whole heartedly not for the food but for the bond which they have build.

And in organizations, I feel, such bonds are the last point of attention. Though various programs are run for the welfare of the employee. But actually those are run to fare well the image of the organization in business world. To portray to the business community that the organization takes care of its work force. And this lip service attitude in this important area is the reason why the situation is mostly chaotic inside. The bond is missing because master is no where to be seen rather master has employed some middlemen to ensure dogs are train well and work well. Middlemen are the branch of the master tree and the new masters to the dogs; these middlemen are the manager. Not all Middlemen are bad, but most of them transform into task managers, due to their own insecurities and pressure from the organization and they overlook element of bond building. The middlemen's training is to perform their jobs well, makes them machine to follow codes and policies and they loose the inner charm (leadership) somewhere. The middlemen who were to become the master and hold strap in their hand rather become mechanical robots with strap tied to them.
The dog which employed its services to the master as Human gets restless and unsatisfied when it realizes that the master is actually a mechanical robot to which it is tied. And these robots are the once to make them work and perform. The dog attempts to take its pseudo master seriously, but with the motivation force missing, things don't happen the way they should be. This displeases the robot and displeased robots actions sow seed of distrust in the dog.
The unsatisfied dog bites the robot and pees on it. It is motivated by the thought that one day its bite will weaken the robot enough to make it fall on its knees. It continues to pee on it with a hope that one day its fluid waste will be acidic enough that it will corrode the robot and make it collapse. As time passes the dog realizes that the only thing it has done is damage it's own mouth by continuous metal bites and peeing has make its surrounding dirty. The already unsatisfied dog is frustrated now and displeased with the real master for having branched masters.

There are times when employees face such a situation at its work place. The acrimony between the heartless mechanical robot fails to understand dog while the foolish dog continues to damage itself.

After long the realization comes to the dog that the only thing which it can damage is the strap. That is something which it has power to control. The strap has two ends. The one end firmly held by the master and the master will never let it go unless circumstances like food scarcity (economic recession) comes, where it wishes to free most of the dogs. During food scarcity due to the deterrence of animal activist's protest, the masters only loosen the hold instead releasing dogs while they control dog's food supply and comfort to inspire it to leave on its own. The other end of the strap, is the end at the dog's side, it can bite and set itself free and look for other master with a hope that the new master would be good.

But in considerable number of times the dog find nothing different from what it was earlier. As it hop on, from one master to another, the circumstance seems changing but the ground reality remains the same. They keep coming to it as with the previous masters but in different forms. The dog always feel exploited, cheated and starts to blame the whole system.
? Is their no solution to beat this situation?
? Will the vicious circle never be broken for the suffering Dog?

Lets see...
-->If after continuous efforts situation is not changing, then probably some extra effort is needed. Not to strive for change but to strive looking for what element doesn't allow the change.
-->When after continuous highlighting the wrong, which you think done to you, is not stopping, then probably highlighting of the reason is needed to yourself, the reason which is making you the subject to the wrong doing.
-->When you can't change the system with all you might, turn that force inward and change yourself.

The obvious sympathy comes towards the Dog. It is the irony of the world that it will never help the one in trouble but does shed tears for it. So what dog gets is flood of tears which is a salt water, it can't even drink.
So is it the bad Masters who have continued to exploits its Dog from Pre-Industrial to Modern Era?
No! the problem is the mentality of the Dog, which has made it susceptible to all exploitation, which it complains of. The life never asks you to be a dog and take the comfort of the civilized world, it also gives chance to challenge the wild and be the master of your own. The question is why is that route rarely taken? Because it is not easy. It is not easy to forsake everything to reach that only one which you want, to be resilient to continuous failure, to continue striving against ones own apprehensions, to remain motivated in adversaries, to renounce all worldly pleasure that comes so quick if you chose to be dog and most important capable to walk alone on that chosen path.
It takes real guts to set oneself free. Before one realizes a dream to master a portion of jungle he get into the fierce fight to first establish the first step firmly. Moreover you are always exposed, you have to not only provide for yourself but also to other fellows who work for you. The responsibility increases and so does the pressure. The preparedness preaches you to establish yourself hard to face the unforeseen and you continue to tighten control on resources, and you bring in people to establish process and implement policies. You become strict and stringent in your own space. And while this process continues and with time when you turn to the fellows of your space you realize that you have become master and the follows transformed into the Dogs. You wanted to become master but you never wished to make your fellows into dog, but looks like the pattern has repeated but its just you are the one who is cursed and your men are the one who are bitten and peed upon this time.

The agony of being strapped dog comes with the protection from the master. Irrespective of how much the master is disliked, you know that masters will fight to provide you, they protect you from the direct exposure of the danger (market changes). But the change you can bring in here is at individual level. You are small.
But when you the master you are all exposed to danger, you are detested, bitten and peed upon, but you hold great powers to enforce change.

So now its your choice?
To Be a Master or continue Being A Dog!
But whatever you chose to become, blaming is not acceptable.

६४वाँ स्वतंत्रता वर्ष: क्या खोया क्या पाया हमने!!

भारत का चौसठावाँ स्वतंत्रता वर्ष चल रहा है। बीते वर्षों में हमने बहुत कुछ पाया और खोया भी। पर हमने पाया कुछ ऐसा की विश्वपटल पर भारत का नक्शा पहचाना जाने लगा, भारत इक्कीसवीं सदी की शक्ति के रूप में उभरने लगा, भारतीयों को गंवार से अधिक भी समझा जाने लगा और इसी के समकक्ष खोया भी बहुत कुछ बहुमूल्य, परंतु उस खोने का किसी को संज्ञान नहीं और यदि है भी तो अघोषित है,मौन है। इस पाने की प्रसन्नता में जो आँखें खोले बैठे भी थे वो पुरानी पीठी के धकियानूसी लोगों के रूप में स्थापित कर दिये गये हैं। अब वो अगर बोलें भी तो लोग उनको कहते हैं “बावरे हैं”, और ध्यान नहीं देते; उनकी चेतावनी को अनदेखा करते है।
मैं कोई विकास अधिकारी नहीं हूँ, परन्तु अपने देश के प्रति संवदनशील अवश्य हूँ और आँखें खुली रखता हूँ, तो थोङा बहुत देश के हालातों से मैं भी परिचित हूँ। वैसे ये बात और है कि आज के विकास अधिकारी, किसी भी विभाग का ले लीजिये, अपने विभाग के विषय में ही जानकारी नहीं दे सकता है तो देश की तो बात बहुत दूर की है। ये बात अपने आप में एक और मुद्दा है, इसलिये इसको फिलहाल यहीं छोङते हैं।

मेरे समक्ष देश की जो तस्वीर उभर के आती है, वह मेरे गर्व भरा विचलन देने वाली है। बङा ही अजीब सा भाव है। नहीं?? अब उस तस्वीर को मैं आपके समक्ष प्रस्तुत करने जा रहा हूँ, तनिक गौर करियेगा।
यदि भारत की आज़ादी के प्रारंभ की बात करें तो उस समय हमारे राजनेताओं की प्राथमिक्ता यह थी भारतियों को रोटी, कपङा और मकान उपलब्ध हो। हमारे बङे बङे नेता विदेशी दौरों पर जाते थे अनुदान की आशा से। रूस, अमेरिका और यूरोप के कुछ एक बङे देश। उस समय हमारा देश याचक था और याचक की तरह ही उसको व्यवहार मिलता था। और याचक के प्रति तो दो ही आचरण होते है, दया और फटकार। ये मामला अलग है कि अंतरराष्ट्रीय मानको के आधार पर हमारी करीब ४०% जनता अभी भी गरीबी रेखा के नीचे है।
वैसे भारत ने इक्कीसवीं सदी में जब प्रवेश किय वह आत्म निर्भर तो हो ही चुका था और उसने खुली अर्थव्यवस्था की ओर कदम बढ़ाते हुये अपने द्वार भी विदेशी कम्पनियों के लिये खोल दिये थे। और इस सदी में, भारत विश्व की एक महत्तवपूर्ण शक्ति है यह तथ्य स्थापित हो चुका है। भारत की प्रसिद्धी तकनीकी, सूचना प्रौद्योगिकी, दूरसंचार, अंतरिक्ष अनुसंधान, परमाणु अनुसंधान, सेवा, दवाओं, इत्यादि क्षेत्र में होने लगी। भारतीय शेयर बाज़ार नई ऊचाईयों को छूने को अग्रसर हैं, सकर घरेलू उत्पात भी उन्नतोंन्मुख है, नये विचारों से लैस उद्यमी, विकासोन्मुख व्यक्तित्व और उनकी कंपनियाँ बाज़ार को नये आयाम दे रहीं है। भारत की अंतरराष्ट्रीय बाज़ार में भी पैठ प्रसंशनीय है। भारतीय प्रतिनिधित्व विश्व पर प्रखर हो चला है। आज के भारत की शौर्य गाथा हर क्षेत्र में है।
यदि उपरोक्त प्रविष्ट उपल्ब्धियों पर द्रष्टि डाले तो आपको यही अनुभूत होगा कि भारतीय अर्थव्यवस्था प्रचंड हो उन्नति मार्ग पर अग्रसर है।
तो फिर पीङा क्यों और किसे है?
जब इतनी प्रगति है तो यदि कुछ गवांया भी तो इस सब का भुगतान क्यूँ नहीं समझ सकते हम?
जब नये विचार आते हैं तो पुरानों को जाना पङता है, फिर ये कोलाहल क्यूँ?
ऐसा तो नहीं हो सकता कि हमें सिर्फ मिलता ही रहे- यदि किसी कक्ष में कुछ नया लाना है तो पुरानी वस्तुओं से निव्रत्ति तो लेनी ही है। यह महत्वपूर्ण भी है और स्वभाविक भी। नहीं क्या?
यह सारे प्रश्न अपनी स्थान पर सही हैं। परन्तु कुछ अन्य बिन्दू भी हैं जिन पर विचारना नितांत आवश्यक है। अब तनिक यूँ सोचिये-
इस दौर को सामजिक विक्रति नही कहें तो और क्या कहें कि यहाँ पूछ सिर्फ धन की होने लगी है और हमारा समाज उसके उपार्जन के स्रोत के प्रति उदासी है।
हमने अपने चरित्र प्रधान समाज को धनोन्मुख बना दिया और बिना विरोध सहर्ष स्वीकार भी लिया।
हर सरकारी या गैर सरकारी विभाग में कर्मचारी अपने निजी लाभ के लिये गलत करने से नहीं हिचकता; उसे कोई डर नहीं है। डर कानून का, जिसे वो यह सोच के नहीं घबराता कि यदि पकङे भी गये तो लचर कानूनी प्रक्रिया के चलते सज़ा होने की संभावना तो कम ही है, और अमूमन जो आयोग बैठाये भी जायेंगे जाँच के लिये वो भी लेदे के आख्या (रिपोर्ट) अशक्त कर ही देंगे। और दूसरा डर समाज का, जो पहले भ्रष्ट लोगों को बहिष्क्रित कर देता था। अपने ही समाज में पराया हो जान एक बहुत बङा मानसिक अवरोध था, पर ये अब नहीं रहा। और समाज का यह लचीला रुख ही समाजिक ढाँचा में भ्रष्टाचार का पोश्क है।
और सबसे बङा कष्ट यही है!!
अपने विद्यालय (स्कूल) की कई अच्छी सीख़ों में से एक उद्धरण करना चाहुँगा। एक टीचर थे हमारे और वो अक्सर एक कहावत कहते थे

"If Money is lost nothing is lost, if Health is lost something is lost and if Character is lost, Everything is lost"

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सार में कहें तो -

धन तुच्छ है, स्वास्थय् मूल्यवान है और चरित्र बहुमूल्य।

समाज इसके विपरीत हो गया है। क्या इसको आप पीङा न कहेंगे। यदि वित्तीय द्रष्टि से देखेंगे तो उत्तर अवश्य ना ही होगा।

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अब ये जानने की कोशिश करते है कि गाँधी के सूती भारत, भगत के बलिदानी भारत, बोस के द्रढ़ भारत, राम के पौरुषी भारत, कृष्ण के निर्मोही और कर्मशील भारत, चाण्क्य के नीतिकार भारत और विवेकानंद के ज्ञानी भारत को भष्ट, कैसे और किसने बनाया?
समाज की यह जो स्थिती है उसको इस अवस्था में लाने के लिये हम सब उत्तरदायी है और विशेष तौर पर हमारे रहनुमा, हमारे नेता। यह प्रक्रिया कई दशकों से चलती रही है और आज इस अवस्था तक आई है। वैसे प्रक्रिया अभी जारी है, अभी और बहुत कुछ देखना है।
भारत जब ब्रतानी साम्राज्य के अधीन था, तब ब्रतानियों ने एक सुनियोजित ढ़ंग से भारतियों को इस मानसिक्ता की ओर डकेला कि हमारी जो रीत व परम्परायें है वह असभ्य हैं। इस सोच ने उन लोगों को तो प्रभावित नहीं किया जो उस समय बुद्धिजीवी थे, परन्तु इस सोच ने अबोध जनता को इस मंथन में अवश्य डाला कि - क्या हम वास्तव में असभ्य हैं? समाज में उनको सम्मान दिया जाने लगा जो लोग स्वयं को ब्रतानी सोच में ढालने लगे (सम्मान के स्थान पर आडम्बर कहें तो अधिक उपयुक्त होगा)। फिर भारत का वो बुद्धिजीवी समाज नेत्रत्व में आ गया जिसको ज्ञान था सही व गलत का। उन्होंने समाज को यह ज्ञात कराया कि हमें स्वयं पर और अपनी संस्कृति पर गर्व होना चहिये। भारतीय समाज को इससे बल मिला। पर कहीं न कहीं ऐसी भावनाओं की जङें दृङ थी कि यदि हमारे किसी भी रीति या संस्कार को ब्रतानी सरकार और उस समय के हुकमरा सही ठहराते तो हमें अधिक गर्व होता था। तो परोक्ष रूप से हम अपने आपको पश्चिम समाज के द्वारा प्रमाणित होने पर अतिगर्वानवित होने लगे। परन्तु उस समय देश की कमान ऐसे व्यक्तियों के हाथ में थी जो अपने भारतीय होने पर और भारतीय सांस्कृतिक विविधता को समझते व समान करते थे और निसंकोच उसका पालन करते थे (खादी का प्रचलन उसी सोच का एक हिस्सा था)। उन्होंने जनता को ऐसे सभी भ्रामक विचार से बचाने का सफल प्रयास किया जो भारतीयों को उनके विचार शक्ति और अस्तित्व पर ही प्रश्न चिन्ह लगा दे।
पर आज़ादी के बाद समय बदला प्रजा को प्रजातंत्र तो मिला पर उसका उपयोग करने का ज्ञान नहीं। भारतीय नेत्रित्व की ये अक्षम्य और जघन्य त्रुटि है, और उनकी अदूर्दर्शिता का एक प्रमाण। प्रजा को प्रजातंत्र का बोध कराये हुये ही उसको उस शक्ति के प्रयोग करने की आज़ादे मिली। नतीजा हुआ जननायकों का चारित्रिक ह्रास। जिन्हें वोट देना था उनको यह नहीं सिखाया गया कि किसे वोट देना चाहिये। वाह्य आडमबरों और शब्द जालों के तानेबाने ने राजनीती में जगह बनाई और प्रगतिशील व नेकनियति से नेत्रित्व करने वाले जनता पर पकङ खो बैठे। आडमबर धन की माँग करता है। इसी लिये आज जब चुनाव आयोग ने २५ लाख राशि घोषित की है (उ.प्र., आ.प्र जैसे बङे राज्यों में), चुनाव प्रत्याशी करोङों में खर्च करते हैं। और जब धन बल इतना महत्वपूर्ण हो गया, तो जो नेकनियति वाले थे, वे भी इस चाल पर चल पङे। बदलते समय की माँग थी, बदलना पङा, अच्छा या बुरा पता नहीं, पर जो नहीं बदले उनको आज रोटियों के लाले पङे हैं, कोई पूछने वाला नहीं। यह धन की पहली मार थी, जब राजनीति में धन सबल हुआ।
राजनीति बुरी मानी जाने लगी। पर समाज को अगला झटका तब मिला जब हमारे देश में हम भाषी मूङ व पिछङे हुये जाने लगे। यह एक और उदाहरण है जहाँ हमारे प्ररंभिक राजनैतिक चूक गये। भारतीय भाषायें दयनीय स्तिथी में है। नौकरी के लिये अंग्रेज़ी ज्ञान सर्वोपरि माना जाने लगा। सरकारी विद्यालय का स्थान निजी स्कूलों ने लिया। जब आप अपनी भाषा से दूर हुये तो संस्कृति भी हाशिये पर आ जाती है। अंग्रेज़ी या कोई और भाषा सीखना गलत नहीं है, गलत है तो अपनी भाषा पर शर्मिन्दा होना। देश को इतना कम था कि फिर आरक्षण ने कसर पूरी कर दी। अब सरकारी विद्यालय या महाविद्यालय में योग्यता नहीं अपितु जाति निर्धारण से प्रवेश मिलने लगे। जो मेधावी प्रवेश न पा सके उनको निजी स्कूलों में जाना ही पङा, जिनकी फीस अधिक थी। पैसे की पहली मार आम आदमी पर यहाँ पङी। जब उसे लगा धन अधिक होना चहिये। सरकारी विद्यालयों में अध्यापक भी योग्यता नहीं अरक्षण से आने लगे। एक तरह से सही ही था, आरक्षित विद्यार्थियों के लिये आरक्षित शिक्षक। अभिभाव ट्यूशन की तरफ भागे। धन की माँग और बढ़ी।
और ऐसे में आया उदारीकरण और खुले बाज़ार की संकल्पना। बाज़ार उत्पादनों से भर गये, टीवी नये चैनलों से, और चैनल विज्ञापनों से। बाज़ारी वैकलपों ने ज़रूरतें बढ़ाईं, संयम को ढकोसला और असमर्थता छुपाने का बहाना बताया गया, इतना ही नहीं भारतियों के बचत वाले स्वभाव का परिहास किया गया। ऐसे समय में हमारे राष्ट्र मे ऐसा कोई भी नायक नहीं था, जो ये कहता कि यह छलावा है इससे बचो।
धन की माँग बढती ही गईं, और समाज उसको पाने की चाह में धनमोन्मुख हो चला। व्यापारियों ने काला बाज़ारी की, नेताओं ने पक्षपात किया और चंदा बटोरा, नौकरी पेशेवालों ने घूस ली, निजीकरण बढ़ा और हर वस्तु के दाम चढ़े। गरीब, मजदूर, किसान जिनके पास बेईमानी के लिये कुछ न था, वे पलायन करने लगे, आत्महत्यायें बढ़ी, कुछ ने शरीर के अंग बेच, कुछ अपराध की ओर बढ़े। इस प्रभाव को सार में कुछ यूँ कहेंगे, भारतीय धनाड्य विश्व धनाड्यों की सूची में शामिल होने लगे, मध्यम वर्ग तनाव से ग्रसित हुआ, और गरीब भुखमरी की ओर बढ़े।

और अब सूचना प्रोद्योगिकी के चलते हमारे कितने ऐसे काम है जिनमें समय बरबाद नहीं होता, पर इतनी बचत के बावजूद हमारे पास अगर कुछ नहीं है तो वो है समय, कि हम बैठें और सोचें, कि आखिर किस ओर जा रहे हैं हम।
जब तक चल रहे हैं चल रहे हैं, इस अंधी दौङ में हम भी निरंतर हिलडुल रहे है।
चूँकि भयभीत हैं स्वयं को टटोलने के विचार से, इसीलिये अब हम स्वयं को भी छल रहे है||
कभी समय मिलने पर उस भारत की तस्वीर देखना जो शहर में नहीं रहता, कोफ्त होगी, इस प्रगति से - जो एक छोर पर हमें अमेरिकी जीवन की ओर ले जा रहा है तो दूसरी छोर पर अफ्रीकी। भारती जीवन कहाँ दम तोङ रहा है?
ह्म्म्म्म्‍ ढूँढो तो जान!!

Desire - Experiencing The Thunder Storm

08-Aug-2010 An Important Day in My Life.

Today, I Experienced what I Longed to get in Reality.

I always desired to witness Monstrosity of Sea During a Thunder Storm.

And I saw; I often Dream my Desires but Today I Got One of Those For Real!!!

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Well! Well! Well!!

Today While I was working at home, I realized that the Lady Dusk, who wears the deep neck, backless evening Gown and flutters in the sky showing off her beauty as the sun dies in the horizon, has suddenly draped herself in Black and eloped.

Lord Weather felt cheated with her action and rushed all around with his power of rain, cloud and wind, to find her. While all the trees yell in support, the situation seemed grave.

I, understanding the gravity of the situation, removed my dried clothes from the balcony and came in to continue my work.

Knock! Knock!! Knock!!! A thought Stuck my Head that moment.

So it Has come. The Day has come when I can get a look of what I always saw on the television, a storm in the sea. I heard people talking. The storm was suppose to hit this area last week.

What an opportunity!!

I live in a distance of less than 25metres to sea beach. What are you thinking Dumbo?? Rush to Sea!!!

Morning My Maa admonished me for going swimming into sea. She was so disturbed to know that I went neck deep into the sea, while I'm no great swimmer. I calmed her saying water as quite as lake and I swim quite well. But this stunt will have no explanation.

Shrugg it Off! Shrugg it Off!! Shrug off the Thought!!!

What Thought??

No! Not the idea to Go to the sea at this moment, but shrug of the fear that my Maa will knock me down with her Emotional Power Punches.

Just to confirm myself I peeped out, rain turned heavy, making futile attempt to discourage me.

I asked my Friend; He agreed. Great!!!

WoWWW!!! Heavy Wind, Roaring trees, daring bolts and gruelling Rain. I am ready For the adventure; to feel how the sea would be at this moment. Yeaahhh!!

Came down to the entrance of the appartment. I saw a couple enjoying dinner. They greeted us with big smile. The guy looked and smiled me so long that I didn't get a chance to glance his female partner. Aah No Probs.

Came out; the rain was heavy I removed my Shoes and started to the beach bare foot. The droplet that hit like pellet contained my urge to run; I was rather doing swift walk hiding my face with my hands. Heavy rain Drenched me in a moment and I realized that it was really cold, the temprature dropped below 20 degree Celsius.

Whatever!! While I decide to go, nothing can stop. I shivered due to cold but I continued walking ahead.

A minute or two, the road ended. I stand on beach, there's the sea just 10/12 meters away from me.

Heavy rain blurred the vision, but excited I moved toward sea. 5 meters now, I could see the challenging waves, just 3 hours back those were so gentle and I was with them. And along with me there were so many Damsels (and men of course) wearing only the Essentials. I got a chill down my spine thinking what if I was inside at this movement. The waves would have tore me. No wonder people say that nothing can save you against turbulent water. Imagining the ferocity of Tsunami, I stepped towards the sea. Low Visibility ahead, dark clouds up, wet sand beneath, and with heavy rain accompanied by power wind. The water droplet feel like shower of arrows from some Lilliputian guards attempting to save their fort against the intruder.

Just a meter away from the shore. I was freezed. A imprudent idea flashed-

- Why not reach the wave!

-- Common Don't be That fool, it is no Joke...

- Oh Common what will happen, I am not going inside water, It's just I wanna touch the wave

-- haha its just water you are already drenched, what will you achieve

- I know, but I'll be thrilled if I do so

-- Adventure has some limit; better don't cross...

- Limit is something set by mind, I liberate myself from all limit, letz go..

-- Don't do this my dear...

- Hell! I'll go...

Taking deep breath to get some courage, I took a step...

Crrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkkk!!

Dammmnn! What terrible sound of bold, never heard before in my life...

Involuntary I was on my knees on ground and I just looked around, half deaf.

Crrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkkk!!

There was no freaking being on that beach in my visibility, ehnanced momentarily by that lightening, even my friend decided intelligently to stay far back near beach's changing room.

Damm... Why the Hell have I come so close? There is a vast disturbed sea in front, far left and right there are dense trees. Now I was in my senses. The thunder sound broke my spell, and realising how alone and vulnerable I was there, I ran towards the changing room.

All science, that I learnt in my school, started pouring in head. During lightening earth is positively charged and standing object or object pointed towards the sky attracts lightening bolts. I ran back half bowed, didn't want to turn from Vivek Vikram to Vikram Roasted.

Reaching the Changing Room I felt safe and sane. My friend said something; what I could understand is trees. I thought that he desires to go to those jungle at this point of time. Grrrreat!!! We have been there earlier. Its creepy even in the day light. I felt, he shared my Enthusiasm. Hiding my excitement, I asked him to repeat, just to cross verify if I understand correctly. And he said

"Lots of trees surround this changing room and with this heavy wind we are not safe here."

Oh Yeah! He was right and I was thinking to go to jungle. Well it was decided to end this. We step out of the room and started strolling back home. Cold was Intensified, and rain drops were shooting our back.

Half way home and

Crrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkkk!!

****! I started running and while I reached the main door of my apartment, again

Crrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkkk!!

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!! I hate this sound...

Stood in the rain for few more seconds, I took deep breath and entered in the main door of the apartment building. The couple seeing our adventure have one Expression for us - "Freaks". But when our eyes met, the guy gave a sound of approval. I couldn't see the girl's face again. Darn!!

Came Back running through stairs to fourth floor. Changed clothes, made some tea and sat in my arm chair sipping tea, thinking back what I did few minutes back, Enjoying & Smiling to Myself.

Then I though to share my experience, so wrote few words here. While I end this, its quite late, the calender date has already changed, the rain has lost its might and wind power too has toned down.

Thanks Lord Indra for Giving me this Experience.

And after this posting, I'll retire to bed. While I wait for sleep I have to think

- How will I present this story to my Maa?

Good Night!!

"माया" is "Relative"

माया! (Maya) This word has fascinated my little world when I encountered it first during my childhood. It was some mythological serial on the DorDarshan (the only option available that time) someone voiced this statement सब माया है. Without realizing the meaning of the word I enjoyed the word Maya.

My First Teacher, My Mother, keeps deep interest in Hindu mythology. So she often narrated us (My Sisters & Me) religious stories to pass good messages in life. And whenever she talked about Lord Krishna, this Maya word reappeared very frequently. I like the word, but I wondered what the word actually mean. So I asked my mother its meaning and she explained it to me with loads of example. What I understood was that there is something worldly and something that is beyond that. But I did not get the essence of it. Finally I was told that I'll understand it with time. Fine! Though I didn't like this idea, but I accepted.

Another notable instance which I could remember was in school, in Hindi class. I requested my teacher if she could help me understand that word. Her effort could manage just a liner "Maya means Money". She chose the easiest possible explanation and the closing note was such that I couldn't dare say that I wanted to know more on that word. Phew! T for teacher or T for Terror?

The next encounter with this word was when I heard about the movie "Maya Memsab". The name intrigued me but my Mother refused to allow me to its show saying movie is not good. Even I heard that the movie was a flop, but there was something about the movie that brought some strange expression amongst those who were so called adult that time. I persisted to watch the movie; to this my Mother said movie is indecent and gave her finishing statement as Maya bhi koi Naam hai. So now Maya is bad.

I was so confused. The understanding of word has brought me three answers all mutually exclusive in the first look. Maya is some how related to Worldly & Non Worldly stuff, it stands for Money and it is Bad. I knew that the world is Round and so became my understanding on that word.

I never occurred to me when I actually got the meaning of that word. As my mother told, I did understand with time. It indeed is a very interesting word.

And lately I got a new dimension to this word.

I Thank Albert (Einstein). His contribution to science has brought to me this new understanding of Maya-

Maya is Relativity. All the diverging thoughts on that word seem to align when relativity sneaks in. Wondering HOW?? So, let us investigate all (my) understanding of this word. Starting from the beginning-

First Sub Maya hai(All is relative) --If we see our worlds, we all live our day to day life relative to something. Example: I am Happy (probably there were time when I was not), I live a decent life (someone doesn't), I like speed (relative again). The easiest test is to question oneself "WHO AM I?". Ponder on all the possible answers, they all will be relative to something.

Second Maya is worldly and Non Worldly -- The worldly part is explained above (so some overlap exist in answers).

Now lets move to Non-Worldly. First define the non Worldly. I take it something out of our Planet , the space, is Non Worldly. All the discoveries and talks are relative to our Earth. Of all the theories of space origin, if we take Big Bang as our base, still our research are never about the absolute point of Bang, but Earth centric.

Third Maya is Bad: Absolutely Right; ABSOLUTE is what is True and Reliable. In our programming world it is recommended to use absolute paths to help portability and reduce errors. Even religious sculptures preach to seek absolute to break the life cycle and unite with the divine.

Anyone to Contest the idea? :-))

Reasons of Heart

Heart has no brains to reason. It is the human mind that kindles two kinds of thought. One, the outcome of some well reasoned & rational approach, while the other where some idea just lingers through the mind and gets captured. The latter is mentioned as the Heart and many a times it is the driving force of a person’s existence.

Heart, an intriguing subject to the poet, to the philosopher and even to the individual has several factors like genetic, social and environmental, etc that give it a shape. There is no limit to the desires that get aroused in the heart and it can leap to any distance and between any two completely contrasting context in a matter of fraction.

Mostly thoughts of heart are those which are driven by faith, passion and feelings, and many a times they just don’t fit in the logical frame.

It is the belief of some thinkers and religious preachers, that “the one who controls his heart can control his destiny while the one who is control by heart in a way accepts the slavery of the world”.

This thought can be logically explained- we spend a great portion of our life trying to bring consensus between these two contradicting schools of thought that live within us.

A person who controls his heart has more time and energy to work towards his goal. The synergy between the head and heart will produce a greater effect of the individual's action and a focused mindset that will lead him to success. On the contrary a person with a divided mind will always have some clouds of pessimism, which, time and again, hamper the potency of his actions. It is like a government that suppressed its strong internal opponents, and attacks the neighbouring country to conquer. It may succeed, with all things come straight and stars in favour, but under no circumstances it would be considered as a tactical approach.

We get thousands of thoughts in a day and most of the times these thoughts are shrugged off by the individual due to the hidden irrationality in it or may be they are out of context to the final objective of the person’s life. The out come of our heart, be it desires or some thoughts or any idea, is the form of our energy. So as per the law of conservation of energy an uncontrolled heart wastes our energy.

A controlled heart, streamlined with the life's objective will result in more meaningful, peaceful and successful life.